Wednesday, February 16, 2011

~Balance~



Do you ever need balance?


Boy I sure do. These days my life is wrapped around mothering, working, cleaning, cooking, and lets not leave out being a wife, a writer, a lover, a mother (oh wait, I already mentioned that one) and of course blogging. (Which I suppose goes along with writing) I'm sure most of you would agree that while you wouldn't change the titles you were given, it can often feel overwhelming. I relate to it best like a spider web. Ever notice when those sticky little boogers touch the slightest bit of your hand, and you go to grab the fine thread only to have it stick to the other finger. It's very annoying. 


So I find in my own web of life (and were not talking about Internet) that it's nearly impossible to have every thing running solo. You can't just walk away with the expectation that this thing, whatever it is, will keep itself up. And if you do walk away, somehow those wants or needs aren't far from your mind. They seem to tag along wherever you go, leaving this heaviness hanging over you until the time you do have finds it's way back in your schedule.


Take cleaning for instance. Can someone please invent a magic wand? It never ends! I vow every time after cleaning that I will keep it up and never let it get that bad again. Only the next day it's that bad again. And it's not something you can just block out of your mind. I take high pride in how clean my home is, and it still isn't clean. When people come over, do they really look at my husband if the toilet is dirty? Are they giving him the stink eye if the sink is full of dishes? Most likely not. And just for the record, for those of you who have had the pleasure/or not of my company in your home, I don't judge. Or care for that matter. You are my friends and I love you.


With all that said, I'm struggling to find this "balance thing" and still feel good about it. I love all my roles and while my faith and family are clearly number-one, I still battle with that perfect proportion of needs and wants. 


So while blogging and writing are so important to me and I love every second of it, I need to steady this area, along with other things. 


I've decided to step down just a little and focus on some other much needed areas in my life. Particularly my faith. I need to focus on my heart and keep it as fresh and active as much as God's willing to allow. For myself, I'm nothing without the assurance that my spiritual life stays progressive and functioning at a level in which I'm growing and purposeful.


I'm confidant as I'm determined, I will experience true fulfillment, true balance and real contentment that only lasts when it's given from the right source.




I hope you all are able to find the right balance in your lives and keep what's most important close to your hearts. 


I know I will.


With love,


Ang




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22 comments:

  1. I can totally relate to this--but I hope it doesn't mean you are going away completely.

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  2. @Angela FRSNot at all! Just a little less time writing and a little more time soul searching:)

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  3. Ang: you are an inspiration! I will continue to read your blog when you write and hope you are living fully the times that you don't. :) May God bless the times that you lean in more!

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  4. Ohhh if one day would have 48h, that would be awesome. For me 24h is just not enough. I am sleeping for few hours and still can get everything done..hey and I am stay at home mom so have more time than woman who got to go to work.
    I do hope that you will continue blogging in your spare time..I fell in love with your recipes,stories and your kind heart..Take care of what is the most important and come back to us!:)

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  5. You know I support you with your writing, cooking and blogging endeavors, (and of course, mothering marriage and friendship)but most of all I support your journey in Christ.

    Love you.

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  6. @SandraBeing a stay at home mom is a full time job in itself Sandra. It's sometimes harder than working outside the home. And my blogging is not far from my fingertips. Just when I have the extra time:)

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  7. @SarahI appreciate that Sarah:) Love you.

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  8. @CaryWell said Cary. Thank you for your support:)

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  9. You and I must be on the same brainwaves...lol. I was just thinking the absolute SAME thing this morning. Life is truly about balance. If you give too much of yourself in one area - another one suffers inevitably. We are going on a small trip next weekend and we are TOTALLY unplugging. You have to do those things to really connect with the people in your life.
    You are in my prayers Ang. And just know, that you aren't on this journey alone :)
    Brandie

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  10. @thecountrycookYour words Brandie are so meaningful. Really! I'm excited for you to escape from the typical and absorb what's most important. :) Blessings

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  11. I understand about the balance! I've had to bring my posts down to only one or two a week. Im a perfectionist, and it was taking too much time away from family. I don't know how some people manage to post every day:)

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  12. I do need balance! And find that my spirituality helps me maintain it (and surrounding myself with positive people!)!!!

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  13. Such an important message...I'm so with you on the idea of balance. Sometimes this food blogging (and reading ALL the other great blogs out there!) takes over. I've added a weekly bible study...hoping this new journey brings some added peace...as I wish for you, too!

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  14. Ang, you are right on here! I don't have a smart phone for that very reason, I just like to focus on who I'm with at the moment. It's possible to fit in what ever you want, just be sure and prioritize. Being a mom is hard and tiring work.
    -GIna-

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  15. I definitely relate to this post and have been feeling overwhelmed by all the different things in my life I have to juggle...and I'm not even a mom yet! I don't know how parents get it all done, but I have mad respect for them!

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  16. I can totally relate Ang! It's hard to keep everything balanced, but I hope you do find your balance and fulfillment!

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  17. Totally agree with you with the struggle with all kind of balance. There is never a definite yes or no in all kind of situations.

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  18. I am struggling to find balance in my days...I think it will be a continual process, and it helps to know that others are sorting through the same issues. Thank you for sharing with me tonight. I hope you have a great Friday. I'm so ready for the weekend!

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  19. This is so easy to relate to. I guess everyone is trying to find a balance. I think it is best to follow your heart. Usually, you don't go wrong.

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  20. Ahhhh... balance. Yes, the much sought after thought. I've been looking for it for the last 20 years!! Sometimes I have more luck than others, but it hasn't until my kids have become older that I found it more often. As for the house... mine is clean at the moment (house cleaner was here today!!) but give us about 24 hours and somehow it will look just like yesterday. The laundry is a never ending battle.

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  21. I think that we all struggle with balance at times. A dear friend told me once that I suffer from fractured perfectionism. I set the bar so unrealistically high in all areas of my life that I almost always end up falling short. Over time though I am getting better with this.

    My spirit and well being is most important because I can't take care of anything or anyone else until my own needs are met. Thank you for sharing this with us. It is always nice to be reminded that we all go through these life struggles.

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  22. @Annie's DishAnnie I really appreciate you sharing some of your own characteristics, and your perspective.

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